Deisy's Breast Cancer Story

The body shakes what the soul screams and the mind does not have the courage to recognize but that the heart deeply knows…


Your heart always knows better....if you know how to listen to it....believe me.


It was summer 2017...it all started with a cyst in my right ovary on July 2017.
I had surgery but they could not remove it for other complications....


After one week of that surgery, I felt a lump in my right breast. I never thought about the word cancer. So after not being totally recovered from last surgery I was diagnosed with breast cancer and everything happened pretty quick (Dutch efficiency).


I was still in shock when I had a full mastectomy of my right breast and reconstruction in same surgery just after 5 days of the diagnosis (they said it was urgent to remove it).


Surgery took about 5 hours until I got out of that room. I only did what doctors advised me to do.


After that, I received chemo for 4 months. I supposed to do it for 6 months in total but I stopped it....


Deeply in me, I was sure I was already cured and cancer will never be back...


My case, luckily, was way better than others. It was detected on time and surgery did the main job. After that, I was basically clean, but chemo was just to prevent any recurrence because of my age... at that time I was only 29...


I had a full-time job I enjoyed but also stressed me, no kids, no marriage but I just bought a house together with my ex at that time (hoping to get married and start a family ,although deep in me I felt something was just not right about this idea) but things got complicated with him after buying that house... also my parents were divorcing and I was also writing my thesis for my pre-master hoping to graduate by July 2017 while working and having to travel often for work too....I didn’t have any time for anything not even for myself and very limited to socialize ... I had a lot of stress at that time and I think I had a burn out I didn’t want to recognize...I was lost in the whole process...but thanks to cancer it made me stop that race I was running for no reason...and finally during the whole process and chemo I learn to accept things the way they were and I found myself again. That time made me realize what I am worth it again. It also helped me to find my own peace and purpose in life.... how amazing is that! 


Anyway, here it comes the second part of the story…


Few months after my last chemo for the breast cancer, I had a difficult break up with my ex. I had a hard time during the whole process of splitting up also due to the house was a big deal between us and getting rid of it cost me a lot of energy. Also moving out to another place was time and energy consuming (I was living in a village close to Amsterdam with my ex , and moving to Amsterdam is quite challenging if you want to find a decent place to live....mostly in the health conditions I was ...) .Thank God my ex and my friends helped me as well to move. I was just very tired but I did my best. Finally I got a couple of nice and cozy places where to live for few months each... 
But I remember that I was also emotionally unstable and not really thinking or realizing about what was going on in my life and what just happened, I was just trying my best to find my own peace and little by little build up a normal life again....


I did even started to work then a few hours a week, and did some exercise and mostly things that gave me joy.


All of this taking into account that I am from Colombia (I come from a humble family who ran away from Colombia mostly due to poverty conditions and criminality during Pablo Escobar’s time, we are from Medellin) , so I moved with my family to Spain when I was 15 and lived there for around 9 years. But after I finished my bachelor in Spain I decided to move alone to where I am currently living now almost for 7 years: The Netherlands ... so my family and most of my closest friends are based in Spain...And I have always done my best to overcome difficulties without my loved ones around. So you can imagine that can be hard sometimes. Although I have to Thank God for having such a good friends in here who in a way or another have always helped me and for which I think I have no life enough to thank them all!


Within all this story the issue with my right ovary cyst arises because it was pending to remove it anyway...remember?


I went to my gynaecologist and after a couple of ultrasounds we saw 2 irregular spots in the screen next to the cyst... and after another surgery, he told me that once again he could not remove the cyst and instead just took a biopsy of those spots because he was afraid of they were something else…


Well, how unfortunate to know that I had to hear the word cancer again in less than a year after my last chemotherapy for breast cancer...


I was then diagnosed with ovarian cancer in May 2018. I started again the whole cancer journey with thousands of medical appointments and visits to specialists.


On July 2018 I had a major surgery (hysterectomy) in which they removed right ovary with a 7cm tumor completely with the fallopian tube and all the rest of small tumors around that area.


It was ovarian cancer stage 2B. After surgery, they said it seemed like cancer was totally gone and that I should be clean then. But still, I would need to go under chemo for 5 months to prevent any recurrence....

 

So finally here I am going to my 5th chemo in 2 weeks and ready to finish them all by January 8th (when my last chemo is planned)! I am now confident and sure to finish all the chemo sessions because this time I believe I will need them (ovarian cancer unfortunately is way more aggressive than breast cancer). 

 

Also this time I decided that I will celebrate my 31st birthday even if it is after just 4 days after my 5th chemo in 2 weeks....last year I couldn’t celebrate my 30th birthday as I wanted or as I planned it ... I had in mind to celebrate my 30th birthday in New York (because of you know... the 30’s are a special year for everyone...) ... but instead I had to ‘celebrate’ it after Christmas because the chemo last year made me feel so bad that I had to be at the hospital during my birthday... I didn’t do anything special , just dressed up and make up and had a dinner with my mom and my ex... play some music and dance with my mom who was here by then...that’s all we did... 


Thank God for this time I have my mother around to support me, apart from my current partner( who I met just 1 month before the second diagnosis of cancer...) and friends. Without their support, I think I would have not been able to find the energy to keep fighting....


It has been such a rough journey time and still, it is!


But after all the struggles and battles it is worth it to keep fighting and win to cancer!  
Not having your family around makes it more challenging but you become a stronger and more compassionated person at the end.


You get to know what is really important in life and also learn that you should put yourself first no matter what!


This journey has taught me to love myself above anything and listen to my body rather than what my mind sometimes has to say.


So if I could and can beat cancer, I am sure you can too beat anything life throws at you!


Because being strong and keep hope is the only option you have in life!

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Photo credits to (instagram) @a.under
My instagram @deisy_thephoenix30


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